TIL my attempt at a 'no phones' date at a quiet Italian spot in Providence backfired when the waiter dropped a tray of drinks right behind my date, making her jump and spill her wine all over my shirt.

We spent the next 20 minutes in the bathroom with paper towels trying to get the stain out while a line formed, and I learned that trying to force a perfect, distraction-free vibe can make a small accident feel like a huge deal, so has anyone else had a plan for a smooth night go completely sideways from one random thing?

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the_joseph1mo ago

Forcing a vibe is the problem... the plan itself sets you up to stress over every little thing. A good date isn't about controlling the environment, it's about how you handle the mess together. That bathroom trip could've been a funny story instead of a disaster.

rubyschmidt1mo ago

My third date with Sam fell apart when his dog ate the picnic.

eric_murray2617d agoMost Upvoted

Gotta disagree. Planning ahead doesn't mean you're forcing anything. It shows you care enough to put in effort. A picnic takes time and thought - picking a spot, packing food, finding a blanket. That's not stress, that's basic respect for someone's time. The dog eating everything isn't a "handle it together" moment, it's a sign the guy didn't think ahead about a hyper dog around food. Some people want a date where the other person actually considers the details instead of winging it and hoping for a funny story.