My Tinder date called me out for over-explaining and it stung

I went for coffee with a girl named Jess at a spot in Portland last Friday. She asked why I like hiking and I gave her a 5 minute ramble about elevation gain and trail maintenance. She just said 'you do that a lot, don't you?' and she was totally right. Has anyone else had a date point out a habit you didn't even notice about yourself?

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morgan_ramirez27d ago

Wait, did she actually say it like that or was she trying to be playful? lol. I feel like there's a big difference between someone pointing out a quirk in a rude way versus a more joking way. Over-explaining is such a common thing though, I do it too when I'm nervous or just really into a topic. Trail maintenance sounds totally normal to bring up if you're into hiking, but I get how a 5 minute ramble might have been a lot for a first coffee date. It's honestly kind of cool she noticed it though, means she was actually paying attention to how you talk.

eric_murray2627d agoMost Upvoted

@morgan_ramirez, yeah she was definitely just playful about it...