Hit date number 50 this month and I'm starting to think I'm the problem

Met someone new on Tuesday and realized it was the 50th first date I've been on since I started keeping track in 2022. Fifty. That's almost one a week for a year. I keep a little note in my phone of where we went and what went wrong. Most of them are fine people, just no spark or they ghost after. But 50 feels like a weird milestone. Like at what point do I stop and think maybe I'm doing something wrong that I can't see? Or is this just normal for dating apps now? Anyone else hit a number that made them stop and question everything?

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thea85719d ago

okay but i wonder if you're actually filtering too much before the date even happens. like are you swiping on people who are basically clones of each other? i did this thing where i realized i was only going for people who had the exact same hobby listed because i thought it would make conversation easier, but it just meant we had nothing else to talk about. maybe try picking someone who seems cool in a completely different way than your usual type and see if that changes the vibe at all.

victor_adams19d ago

That whole mindset spills over into how we shop and work too, doesn't it.