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Got told I talked about my ex too much on a date, so now I keep a mental timer for how long I let myself vent about past stuff.
She straight up said 'you sound like you're still processing that breakup' after I mentioned my ex's cat for the third time in an hour, so has anyone else gotten a brutal mirror held up to them mid-date and actually changed how they act?
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olivia_rivera8821d ago
Three times about a cat in one hour is wild. I get it, breakups mess with your head, but that's a sign you're not ready to date yet. Take six months off, get your head straight, then try again. Nobody wants to be a free therapist over dinner.
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violatorres21d ago
Wait, wait - you're telling me she mentioned the cat three times in one hour? Like the actual cat or the ex? Either way that's honestly kind of impressive in a sad way. I feel like at that point you're not even trying to date, you're just looking for someone to witness your breakdown.
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xena_fox3917d ago
Actually dealt with something similar with a friend last year... @violatorres is right that people just want a witness sometimes. Gently tell her she's gotta process that stuff with a therapist or a journal, not on a first date. Save the cat stories for after you've gotten the bad stuff out, you know?
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